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Kudos to the mom who cares about what kind of person she will unleash on society.
I remember when adults around a child would intervene if the child needed guidance on the spot as in about to shoplift, deface public property, etc.
I don't claim to have all the answers, but the world was a safer saner place then.
I woot, therefore I am.
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I think it was a stroke of Mom genius - the little girl got the message, she got a taste of the kind of REAL sanctions one faces if stealing becomes a habit, and she had to deal with a genuine consequence of her actions - but nobody beat the crap out of her and blamed it on Jesus. A win-win.
Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read. -- Groucho Marx
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I am saddened to hear of so many parents resorting to public shaming today & even sadder at all the praise they get in public. This didn't teach her daughter anything. Nothing. It embarrassed her & I can PROMISE you she has thought MORE about what an a-hole her mom is than the error of her own actions. That is basic human nature.
If you would not condone doing it to an adult with mental disabilities that *functions* at an 8 yr old level/capacity, then there is no way to justify doing it to a kid who is 8 simply because they are shorter & younger.
You may be able to send a child to their room, but you will never be able to *make* them "think about what they did wrong" - they just set in there & think about what a jerk you are...and that is just how it goes.
And yes I have kids & a few are grown & they are doing just fine...so no, you don't have to "put them in their place" to actually get them raised well.
My 4 have managed spank & nearly punishment free to be nearly trouble free as well. I do a TON of repetition & make sure I do follow through always, but it beats trying to force them into submission. I'd rather work on garnering their trust & gaining cooperation.
I think this mom's heart is likely in the right place, but I'd like to see what happens at 16. I could get my current 6 yr to jump at the sound of my voice if I wanted to - there are always means to garner compliance out of young children, but by teen years, you loose that delusion of control - as no one controls another human being. You hopefully raise them well enough so they make good decisions EVEN when they think no one else will find out & that doesn't come from punishment, that comes from understanding right & wrong. Public shaming doesn't *teach* right or wrong.
spending my kid's college funds one woot off at a time