kutiel wrote:As a child who grew up with a Dad who paid child support it's a load of BS.
My Mom and a lot of people don't spend it on what it should be spent on. Bills, food, clothing, school supply, ect.
And that really irks the f' outta me still.
How do you know what it is being spent on? If a child was fed, clothed, and had a roof over their head, I'd argue it was spent properly. I know there are people that 'abuse' such situations and "can't afford" to put clothes on their kids when they are getting decent amounts of money, but I also see many kids that only hear from one side (generally the payer) that child support is getting paid so if you can't have the nice things then it b=must be getting blown on other stuff and no being used properly.
I've lived and seen both sides of this. A friend had a kid with a girl, she cheated on him, they split up, she got child support for a child that, while she technically had custody of, lived with her dad full time. He still had to pay child support and it was a ridiculous amount of money from every pay check making it hard for him to get by. He eventually fought for custody (because the mom would steal clothes and money from the daughter when she could be bothered to have her overnight, did some drugs, and other things) and now doesn't have to pay it.
On the other side, I have a step son whose father has 4 kids from 4 different women. 1 he signed his rights away for, the others were lucky to get any money from him because for many years he had a job as a server, didn't claim his tips and didn't have a paycheck that could be taken. He probably should have and could have gone to jail, but that would have done nothing productive for a deadbeat dad. He enlisted into the Army and now the support comes out of his National Guard checks, but between the 3 kids that should be getting the support, we are lucky to get $40 a week. Still we have been accused of spending it on non-child related things. Tell me, do you think a teenager can go through $40 in food a week? How about a clothes budget, school and so on.
For those that pay and own up to their responsibilities, good on them. It sucks, but if it is being used properly it is the right way to go.
I certainly don't mean to sound accusatory here, but this is something I am passionate about and while I think it is a good idea (as are court ordered vasectomies/birth control of some sort), but like a welfare system has potential to be abused by both the courts/family services and sometimes by receivers.
OK too much serious in my light hearted impulse woot shopping...
Let's see the quality impulse buys!
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