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Poll: When my kid throws a temper tantrum, I:
  • 13.5% - Try to reason with him 99
  • 35.4% - Send him to his room 259
  • 23.8% - Laugh and point 174
  • 14.6% - Scream louder 107
  • 12.7% - Other (comments, please) 93
732 votes

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gholt121


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Ignore the tantrum.



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ugomona


quality posts: 4 Private Messages ugomona
gholt121 wrote:Ignore the tantrum.



+1

Works like a champ. Without an audience, the tantrum is over in no time.

chretist


quality posts: 3 Private Messages chretist

Slap some sense into them!

CeruleanDragon


quality posts: 2 Private Messages CeruleanDragon

Reading it in black and white... I come to realize I'm a terrible parent... I usually resort to the last two. >.<

jelliebaby


quality posts: 11 Private Messages jelliebaby

Give him/her a time out

ckeilah


quality posts: 149 Private Messages ckeilah

Cull the brood, so you only have good children.

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PghRiverRat


quality posts: 1 Private Messages PghRiverRat

I spent a couple thousand $$ child-proofing my home, and the little b**tards STILL get back in.

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bsmith1


quality posts: 103 Private Messages bsmith1

squeeze arm until they cry like a small child

kestrelle


quality posts: 2 Private Messages kestrelle

All of the above?

ardubu


quality posts: 6 Private Messages ardubu

Duct Tape. Did you hear something? Not enough tape...

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mncowboy96


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I grew up old school, a temper tantrum was a good way to get sent to your room and not want to sit down for a good 10-15 minutes. Now days we have to use tee ball rules with children and we wonder why crime goes up.

mdkopper


quality posts: 0 Private Messages mdkopper

duck tape

charliecarroll


quality posts: 105 Private Messages charliecarroll

A pop to the backside. BTW, while anger is expected and somewhat ignored the backside thing has really put the breaks on tantrums. Next time you are out in public and you see one throwing a fit and continues no matter what mom and dad say or do, that is one from a household that does not used the backside method and the rules of play are dictated from the child up and not the parent down.

lboban


quality posts: 12 Private Messages lboban

My granddaughter (2) tried a tantrum a few days back. I waited a while and asked, "Are you done yet?". She looked at me and said "yes" and we went to do something else.

Ignore it. When their behavior doesn't work, it usually stops.

amandagray84


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Ignore. When they are ready to speak and act kindly, I'm ready to listen.

phoenixgirrl


quality posts: 1 Private Messages phoenixgirrl

Ignore.

Send the child to sit on the stairs until the tantrum is over, then talk about it.

It's ingrained in my kids now, and even the 14yo will still do it, even though I can't physically put her there now.

HomerTime


quality posts: 1 Private Messages HomerTime

My kid has his faults, but has never thrown a temper tantrum.

jackiecromwell


quality posts: 0 Private Messages jackiecromwell

Exactly.

deadeye37


quality posts: 3 Private Messages deadeye37

Tazer.

Fortunately, we don't own one. I just daydream of that tazer instead of paying attention to my tantrum throwing child until the child is done.

muzzysgirl


quality posts: 0 Private Messages muzzysgirl

Time out in the corner. When calm discuss why they went into time out.

Sending to room shouldn't be a punishment. That is where you want them to play and sleep. They should feel comfortable.

gooseygoose


quality posts: 9 Private Messages gooseygoose

Spank the crap out of the little devil and then ignore him. My brother's kids are awful because they do that timeout for how ever many years they have minute thing or just give in. They are great around me because they know its not worth it. Funny thing is they love spending time with me

HomerTime


quality posts: 1 Private Messages HomerTime
gooseygoose wrote: My brother's kids are awful because they do that timeout for how ever many years they have minute thing or just give in.


I dunno, but that sounds pretty harsh. Giving a three year old kid a timeout of 1576800 years seems pretty excessive, regardless of how much he acted up.

kellyjo4433


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You have to find out the purpose of the tantrums. if it's for attention: ignore it. if it's because they don't want to do something: make them do it. if it's because they want something and can't have it: they don't get it. Take the purpose away and the behavior goes away when it doesn't work. This is not my opinion it is true. I could go on for a long time. I'm a behavior specialist. Also its very sax the number of people that feel violence is the answers. Just because it might work doesn't mean its right.

tekahawk


quality posts: 0 Private Messages tekahawk

When my youngest son was three, he threw a massive tantrum in the middle of a mall. I got down on the floor beside him and started pitching a fit along with him. He stopped almost instantly and stared at me. I told him, "Looks kinda silly, doesn't it?" He said, "Yeah is does." That was the last tantrum he ever pitched.

fhrcreations75155


quality posts: 1 Private Messages fhrcreations75155

The only way to stop temper tantrums is to ignore them when they are in the toddler phase. They will stop doing them if they don't work. BTW. Those temper tantrums you see in public could be because the child has a disability like autism. Children with autism act out when they get overwhelmed. You do not spake these children for acting out. You try to teach them coping skills. The more upset you get the more overwhelmed the child gets. I know because my nephew has autism, and my sister has to deal with critical looks and stares all of the time. They avoid going anywhere in public now, which is sad and detrimental to my nephew's ability to learn how to cope with issues in public. So, think before you judge. The scene isn't always what you think it is.

charliecarroll wrote:A pop to the backside. BTW, while anger is expected and somewhat ignored the backside thing has really put the breaks on tantrums. Next time you are out in public and you see one throwing a fit and continues no matter what mom and dad say or do, that is one from a household that does not used the backside method and the rules of play are dictated from the child up and not the parent down.



roadlizard7


quality posts: 1 Private Messages roadlizard7

Whack their butt, so they'll at least have a reason for pitching a fit.

Symbolic2007


quality posts: 9 Private Messages Symbolic2007

My parents used time-outs and they worked. I was also a fairly mild-mannered child, though, because of the overall atmosphere they created for me. If you show love and respect to a developing mind, you will teach it through example and your children will have such qualities.

Children should be taught to have a problem with physical harm being done to them for any reason, not expect it as retribution while they're still learning your versions of "good" and "bad". Vengeance begets vengeance. Expect it in return later on. Beating those who can't fight back and whose minds aren't completely developed yet is pathetic.

Ever wonder why parents don't spank their children after they've gotten to a certain age? It sure as hell isn't because the kids stop doing things the parents think are wrong. It's because they develop the mass, ability, and understanding that when someone is physically hurting you, it's okay to defend yourself by incapacitating the other person. Not so fun to hit someone once they can hit back just as hard, is it?

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thumperchick


quality posts: 238 Private Messages thumperchick

I love the absurdity of pointing and laughing at someone throwing a tantrum. That takes a special level of DGAF. (I don't have children and am commenting purely from an entertainment perspective.)

mjedmundson


quality posts: 0 Private Messages mjedmundson

Look him in the eye's (he's only 1) and say "No" in a firm tone. Then if the tantrum continues I will put him in time out. If he ever hits anyone or does anything that could cause himself (or others) harm I pop him on his hand.

alancenta


quality posts: 0 Private Messages alancenta

Ignoring works sometimes, but I prefer to explain in long and excruciating detail why the current condition is occurring. I also insist upon modulated voice tones to be recognized and understood. It usually results in sand in the tantrum.

Ir is important to recognize the moment of better behaviour and reward that with attention.

jasononwoot


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What sort of world do we live in where spanking a disobedient child is so politically incorrect that it isn't even considered as a choice (relegated to "other" in this case)?

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