Reading these makes me so sad.
I'm a parenting coach for parents who want to learn effective, positive discipline, and learn to help their children be productive, resilient, self contained, polite, caring, and cooperative.
I've never used a time out or any other kind of punishment. I'm not permissive or my kids' buddy, either. When they make a mistake, we work on recognizing the problem, fixing it if possible, making amends if necessary, and finding ways to cope with emotions (teaching them methods to calm down when they're angry, recognize their own triggers, etc.). It is not 1-2-3 straightforward like a timeout, but these are human beings, not little programmable robots.
I hated the way I was raised, so I decided I could do a lot better and make a difference for other parents, and demonstrate that it is more than possible to raise awesome kids that are enjoyable to be around without any punishment at all. I went back to school after I got my MA in an unrelated field and got a degree in Early Childhood Education. I didn't learn much about effective discipline there, though, or my five years working with young children professionally--it was in reading positive discipline books and raising my own kids while talking to and coaching other parents that I learned the most. Anyone can do this! Join a positive discipline group to get some support and start reading. It can make such a wonderful difference for your kids, and for you, too.
Some books I like: Kids Are Worth It! : Giving Your Child The Gift Of Inner Discipline by Barbara Coloroso
Raising our children, Raising Ourselves, by Naomi Aldort
How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk
If "time out" really appeals, try reading:
Positive Time-Out: And Over 50 Ways to Avoid Power Struggles in the Home and the Classroom, by Jane Nelsen
We expect punishment to be effective with kids when it isn't with adults. We expect kids to learn by standing in a corner when we aren't relly teaching them anything except "don't get caught" and "parents are the enemy." If we teach our children to obey simply because we say to, then they will take those lessons into their teen years and adulthood, and obey the strongest influence--and it certainly will no longer be their parents.
Teaching them to develop a strong and healthy inner moral compass that is dependent on no outside source CAN be done.
PM me... I'm happy to help or suggest more resources.