Clearly nerves have been touched.
gman529 wrote: There is a lot that goes in to raising a kid and everyone does things differently and every kids needs different things, but if in the end your kid comes out a well-adjusted adult that is a contributing member of society, then you did the best job you can.
I am a parent. As I have said, most of us turn out ok (regardless of what kind of parenting we get as kids.) I merely pointed out that some of the arguments were logically irrelevant. I don't tell parents what to do (or not to do), and I don't tell them their children are going to be messed up if they do (or don't do) it, and I don't like it when other people tell me what to do (or not do) in my parenting.
I *do* however think that people should be informed and self-aware. For someone who doesn't get into an accident, there is *zero* benefit from having their kid strapped into a five-point harness every time the car is moving. Does that mean we shouldn't strap our kids in? No, but we should be willing to admit that there are both costs and benefits to doing so. Research has *never* justified a blanket ban on alcohol during pregnancy and breastfeeding, and I was happy (but not surprised) to be vindicated for my carefully considered, moderate consumption when the study you cited was published after my daughter was born. The link between SIDS and sleeping position is so tenuous that for a baby at low risk of SIDS, any position they'll actually sleep in is perfectly reasonable. All of this has been quantified in multiple studies. *All* parenting advice should be taken with a grain of salt.
Now: several studies have also indicated that spanking is (1) ineffective or less effective than other strategies *in the long term* (note that this conclusion is *not* incompatible with the observation by many parents that spanking works immediately), and (2) linked to higher statistical probability of mental illness (I very carefully say linked to, not necessarily a cause of, because that has not been established). And whether you think spanking is necessary or taboo, it's odd to argue that spanking isn't hitting, or to get upset when someone states that it is.
As for Louis CK's rant, for me the most relevant part is when he talks about his mother--the very frank, and poignant, admission that the big difference between his parenting and hers comes down to a matter of resources. (A lot of comedy comes from pain.) People with abundant resources--money, time, experience, help, coping strategies, time away from their kids--have more tools to deal with everything, not just with helping their kids learn to be decent human beings. A knee-jerk reaction (whether it's "never ever hit your kids" or "spare the rod, spoil the child"--and even worse, its follow-up implication that if you do not hit your children you do not love them?!?) is rarely helpful.